Marriages work more or less the same way all over the world. After the initial honeymoon phase is over, life falls in the trap of what is otherwise known as 'normalcy' which eventually turns out to be monotonous and boring. Wives get into the contemplative mood and start asking questions like... my husband is emotionally distant - what is going wrong with my marriage? What can I do to get my husband to fall back in love with me?
There are several other similar doubts and apprehensions clouding the mind. In case you too are feeling that your husband is emotionally distant, stop getting into the 'suspicious' mode. This means that you should never think that the reason for his distancing himself would always be that he has fallen for another woman. There are a thousand reasons why husbands get emotionally disconnected from their wives. What you should focus more in stead is to find ways to repair the broken relationship and bridge all gaps that are disrupting the normal flow of communication, etc. Here are some steps to help you narrow the existing gaps in your marriage so that you are no longer plagued by the feeling that my husband is emotionally distant.
Your first job is to find out why you are feeling that your husband is emotionally distant? Try and find out the issues which are disturbing both of you. These could be sex, finance, individual career-related priorities, health issues, kids and more. Unless you know the exact reasons for your husband distancing himself, you can never proceed on the right track to solve the problem. Your husband could simply be withdrawing himself in a shell, putting up guards so that he can remain isolated from the harsh realities that are hitting him day in and day out. He is simply feeling incapable of handling all these issues as he no longer feels emotionally connected with anyone in the family, leave alone you.
Chances are that you have started to feel that your husband is emotionally distant, as your husband is overloaded with work, going through some financial crisis which he has not revealed to you and feels under constant and unbearable mental pressure. Remember men are not as communicative as women, and more often than not, they like to keep their personal problems to themselves rather than making them public or fret.
The way to go about prodding as to what is disturbing him is to involve him in a casual and close conversation. Gently allow him to open up to you; gradually re-build his confidence in you. The only way you can do this is to make him as comfortable as possible.
Once he finds that you are there to lend him unconditional support, he would very slowly open up as to what exactly is bothering him at work or at home. Your job is to constantly give him support and reassurances that no matter what decision he takes, you would be there for him, supporting him to the hilt.
Even if he criticizes you or any member of your family, in stead of justifying or arguing with your husband, listen to whatever he has to say. At least he is opening up. With time, he would start to feel comfortable in your company and would gradually feel connected with you. Once this happens you would no longer feel that your husband is emotionally distant.
Why is saving your marriage so important to you?
Because a good relationship is one of the most treasured of human interactions... especially marriage! We all want to be loved. There are the great times together, the shared dreams and visions, the mutual likes and dislikes and more. Great relationships are essential for enjoying a good quality of life. They color everything else around us.
But don't give up on the love of your life yet. There is still hope! You can reverse deterioration of your marriage and successfully reconnect with your husband. Use my professional and personal experience to learn how you can bring passion back into your marriage.
