It's understandable with today's divorce rate to give up on your marriage when the s@%& hits the fan thinking 'why should mine be different'.
But believe me there is always hope to save your marriage. There is even a good chance, it will be better than before. When things look bad it's a great opportunity to become much closer than before.
It is a proven fact, that a lot of people who have classified their marriage as being unhappy, but worked through their difficulties successfully, changed their verdict to happy. So, even if you are on the brink of divorce, give yourselves one more chance by going to seek professional help.
Go and see a marriage guidance counselor, those people have the skills to help you. A marriage guidance counselor relies on a 'little detail', most couples seemed to have forgotten when they go to see him/her, that they have chosen each other because they loved one another and saw a huge amount of positive qualities in each other. Those qualities are still there, even if you can't see them right at this moment. Take the time to remember some of the good times you had. If you can do that, there is a good chance to find the upbeat feelings you had for one another. As soon as you can get some of those positive feelings back use those as a launch pad to recreate your marriage.
Let's look at the scenario that you want to save the marriage and your spouse is so negative and thinks there is no point. Of course both parties need to eventually give up on the idea of breaking up but you can still do things to change your partners attitude. Just think for a moment, everything is energy, if you change your approach towards your spouse they will change to and that is because of the different, positive energy.
But be careful don't expect to much from yourself, because you are too close to the crisis. Even if you are a very rational person because of the issue at hand it's hard to keep the emotions out and therefore it is easy to overreact. In that situation it is good to get a third party in. If your partner refuses a marriage guidance counselor you have other choices. You can find lots of marriage self-help books. If you don't want to go to a bookstore you can do it online.
Don't put your marriage into the too hard basket, there is always hope to save your marriage. If you can get your spouse to sort out your problems together your chances are excellent to avoid divorce. It will take a lot of work and don't despair but think of the rewards.
