If you find yourself asking how long you will be together, you may also be wondering how to save my marriage. Remember that a marriage is a union of two people, so finding solutions to marital problems is going to take both of you. These problems can't be solved by just one of you.
Here are some tips to help bring you back together and increase your chance of your marriage lasting
* There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. Even the most perfect tv show marriages had their flaws just like each and every one of us do. Don't expect perfection from one another. Accept the fact that their will be obstacles that you will have to deal with and get past together.
* Marriages aren't set and forget, they require attention to make them last. Both of you need to realize this or you are doomed to fail. The harder you work at your marriage, the result will be a honest and happier relationship. If you don't take this piece of advice seriously, then it can be devastating to your marriage. Trust and respect for one another are the two areas that tend to require the most work. Without mutual trust and respect for one another your marriage will fall apart.
* Don't dwell on past problems. Don't let mistakes from the past or misunderstandings determine the outcome of your marriage. Whatever happened in the past may have been serious, rehashing them at every opportunity isn't going to help your relationship. Be in the here and now and live each day as it comes.
* Above everything else good communication and listening are vital. Create an environment where the two of you are able to talk to one another without getting upset. speak calm and clear about how you feel and let your partner do the same. Make sure you listen to what they have to say, no matter what it is. Find some common ground where you both feel that your concerns have been resolved, don't forget a successful marriage is about compromise. The more open and honest that you both are, the better.
If you have tried all of the above tips are still asking how to save my marriage, then a professional marriage counselor may be your best solution. Going to a counselor must be a decision that you both agree on, if the counselling is going to be any help.
