If you want to save your marriage, there are a few ideas you should keep in mind.
1. You once loved this person. You can regenerate those loving feelings again. If you or your spouse says they just are not in love anymore, what that means is that the two of you have grown apart and have lost some of those loving, exciting feelings that you had early in your relationship. This is common, but actually something that can be fixed. You can learn to feel love again by practicing some relationship exercises.
2. You may need professional help. With about 60% of marriages ending in divorce, it is important to take this seriously and seek some professional help in the form of marriage counseling or relationship coaching. A qualified marriage counselor or relationship coach can help you to reconnect and feel love again.
3. Find someone experienced and with a record of success to help you. This is not the time to economize and look only to those therapists covered by your insurance. Believe me, divorce will cost you a lot more that an investment in quality marriage counseling or relationship coaching.
4. Learn to communicate. Along with reconnecting, most couples seeking help need to learn to communicate with each other more effectively. Again, this takes a little effort, but with the help of a relationship coach or marriage counselor or within a marriage education class, you can learn these skills.
5. You can save your marriage, but it is going to take some work and some time and probably some investment financially. It is well worth it to heal your relationship and make it once again, a healthy, loving and connected marriage.
